So I was asked today if I would agree to a formal mediation regarding the Fundi Feri Woman. (I guess she didn’t like my response to her email.) She apparently contacted a third party who then contacted me with the request. I thought about what that would mean, and what purpose it might serve. After giving it some thought I decided that I was not interested. I have no intention of having a relationship with this person so what’s the point? Since my goal is to have nothing to do with her (and I would actually prefer to never even think of her again, if possible) I fail to see how a meditation would be a fruitful thing for me. I also find that it is useless to engage a crazy person, so I sincerely doubt it would do anything other than waste my energy. Oh sure, it looks good on paper, and maybe if this person were in my coven, or another social circle that I was a part of then I might see the value in it. But I must also question her motivations behind the request. I can only conclude that it was likely a political one. Now she can say, “Well, I tried! But he isn’t interested in working it out!” That’s fine. I find myself not caring what the Fundi faction thinks anymore. I have heard from so many Feri initiates that we are not really a “community” anyway so to what end could said mediation serve? I said my piece. I’m done. I left the initiates-only list just after my last post here so I need not engage the toxicity there anymore either. That’s OK… all the people that I really have a connection with from there I seem to have connections with elsewhere too.
My own teacher did not engage the Feri community pretty much as a matter of principal. Now I am beginning to see why.
I have some more thoughts about the issues that are a part of this particular conflict. I think those issues are worthy ones to address. I will likely post to that end later. For now I’m just feeling rather free.
**EDIT: It looks like I jumped to an erroneous conclusion about her motivations for asking for the mediation. Thank you Elfwreck for pointing that out to me. It doesn’t change my mind about it, but it is nice to know that it wasn’t a manipulative ploy.